5 Essential Steps to Change your Personality

Is there such a thing as having a good personality? Can you really change your personality? For starters, personality, or the typical pattern of thinking, behaviors and personal uniqueness, can indeed be changed. So yes, you could change what you are. You could become a better you, a person you can feel proud of and confident in. But then, how can you turn a personality you have lived with for the whole of your life?

It takes Time to Change

how to change your personality

They say that change is constant, but then it takes time to change any part of your personality. With this in mind, take as much time as you may need to reflect about your life. Even if you are a busy person, look for time to reflect about the different things in your life that have been hurting your relationship with yourself or with others. In any case, you probably will never implement any of the following tips if you can’t get the time think about your life and what you need to change.

Step One: Accept Change

As some scientists say, change starts with the desire to be different. It is the internal dilemma that you must conquer first before implementing any new behaviors or ways of thinking. It is your life after all, and no one can possibly force you to change. Note however that making a decision to change is never easy. You will face a lot of dilemmas; mostly because you probably feel hopeless or you probably don’t see what’s wrong with some things that have been affecting your life. Maybe you probably love to argue for instance, but you will definitely need to change that part of you if it has been affecting your career. As such, think about the positives that will come after you change something in your life, and then work towards changing it altogether.

Step Two: Take Responsibility

Why do you want people to stop labeling you as uncooperative? Do you think everyone has been picking on you? Well, maybe people aren’t always fair. However, you must take most of the responsibility in your life if you are to change your personality. Simply create the desire to be a cooperative person for instance, stop blaming everyone else who call you uncooperative and change for the better. If you blame you parents for your hot tempered nature on the other hand, stop it. Accept that no one is wholly responsible for all the mistakes and misdeeds in your life. Instead, take responsibility that you may have failed to change earlier, but then again work towards changing.

Step Three: Develop Self-empowering Beliefs

If you’ve already taken all responsibility for the things you need to change; you probably have already developed your cause. Your cause in life includes the most valuable principles you hold deep within you. Everyone has them, as they lie beneath any other personality we have developed over the cause of life. And once you know what values you ought to have in life, start filling your mind with empowering beliefs. Replace “I can’t be humble” with “I will….” Change “I have always been this way” with “I must become a better person.”

Step Four: Develop Positive Habits

What is the whole point of being a different person if you can’t quit all your bad habits? Your habits are what probably broke your marriage or dragged your career down in the first place. Identify them, and quit all of them. But don’t stop there. Look for new habits you wish to be identified with in the future. In fact, you can make your transitioning process easier by switching to new habits even before you completely quit the old ones. For instance, if your addiction to TV and the Internet is affecting your social life, why not join a social group?

Step Five:  Stick to the new Habits

Change is only difficult in the beginning. It is like moving to a new workplace. It feels weird for the first few days and weeks, but then you get adapted to the new life. However, later you may realize that the new environment and new place is better than where you’ve always been. Similarly, changing your personality won’t be an easy process at first. However, maintain your momentum and desire to change. Stick to all the new habits you vowed to embrace in your life. After some time, you will feel proud and confident in the new personality you have developed.

Finally, you can think of looking for a mentor to guide and support you as you embrace your new personality. Alternatively, hook up with friends who share your new personality and remain loyal to them. Again, love to remain modest and positive at all times. But most importantly, promote the good parts of you that you now want people to identify you with.

How I Formed a New Habit in 30 Days (Waking up at 6am)

I enjoy waking up early, well at least for the last six months. Before that, I dreaded mornings. I would set up my alarm at 6am and place it next to me. Immediately it rang in the morning, I would press the snooze button and get back to sleep. And that was my habit since my college days.

how to wake up at 6amNowadays, there is nothing that excites me than listening to the melodious chirps of my pet bird, watching the stunning rays of the sun rise and the early morning dew fall. I have also formed a new hobby for the extra two hours I have after waking up at 6am. There are so many benefits of waking up early.

These days I can mediate and write comfortably on all the things that interests me in life. Actually, I have a past with this hobby. I loved writing when I was younger, but once I fell in love with morning sleep and the job became overwhelming, I kind of gave up. I used to do a lot of food writing. And I still do. For example, you can check out my latest quesadilla recipe. But lately I’ve been shifting into more diverse writing subjects.

I know you also have something you would love to do if you had an extra one or two hours. Unfortunately we all have 24 hours, and you are probably busy throughout the day.

But you see you can only be as busy as you want to be. You can’t have everything you want in life, and that is why you probably have to choose between sleeping until 8.30am or working till late in the evening to achieve your goals. Maybe you probably have the desire to wake up early anyway, but you can’t just help it in the morning. This article is for you.

To show you how I gradually gave up my love for sleeping up to thirty minutes before the official time to arrive at my work place, to comfortably waking at 6am without the help of an alarm, all in thirty days.

There Will Be Mishaps and Relapses

Sometimes when you have a very important thing to do early the next morning, your body will respond by naturally waking you up even before you scheduled wake up time. But that does not always happen, especially if you wake up later than 8am, like I used to.

I remember during my first month trying to wake up earlier, I would set up morning meetings with friends I wouldn’t want to disappoint, and it worked for the days I tried it out. However, the greatest drawback with the method was that since the meetings were not always important, I would relax and tell myself I will do them later.

Stop Procrastination

benefits of waking up earlyYes, procrastination became my thing. I would try waking up early for several days and then I would say, “I can always start next month,” until I realized I didn’t have to form the new habit in a day, not even in a week or two.

After reading several articles that you can slowly form a wake up early habit by adjusting your alarm every day albeit with few minutes, I decided to try it out. On the first day I adjusted my alarm to 7.45am and it stayed that way for a week. Did it work you may ask? No, it didn’t. I got back to procrastination again. Grrr!!

Think of something that excites you

But then I realized waking up didn’t have to be a burden. I had recently learnt how to play an electric guitar, and I really liked it.  My friend had actually said he would help me join a local band if I perfected my art. So, to get motivation every morning, I decided to setup my alarm at 7am for one week, and I would spend one hour each day playing my guitar. From that day, never did I relapse again.

Jump out of bed and, take a glass of water and pee

Immediately my 7am alarm rang, I would jump out of bed, drink some water and pee. Yes, don’t wake up sluggishly. Place your alarm some distance from you, and when it goes off, jump out of bed. After peeing I realized I couldn’t get back to bed again. After all, I really was excited to learn how to play my guitar.

Sleeping Early Helps

Do you love binge watching movies in the evening? I am not saying you quit, but ensure you get to bed before 11pm. A normal human being requires at least 7 hours of sleep time. Early to bed, early to rise, remember?

Avoid Excuses and adjust your schedule

If you think sleeping early might affect your relationship with your spouse, you can both decide to wake up early and exercise or drink coffee together in the morning.

But you may still feel free to adjust things up so that you can have time to enjoy all the things you love and feel excited to wake up early. Like lately, I’ve started working out every day on an inversion table. So this creates perfect extra time in the morning for this.